Sat May 29, 2021 12:47 AM
I want to know if other people have been in the same situation. This feels new and a little unsettling. In the past, I liked being in a relationship. It felt good, right for me, and great to have such a close friend who understands me. Not anymore. I’m not looking for a relationship. I still have the curiosity and well, sexual drive, but not the emotional neediness.
I don’t know if it’s the divorce (2 years ago), having experienced a parasitic toxic relationship, being a parent to a wonderful kid that I want to protect and nurture, or changes in hormones as I’m growing older. Something has changed in me. Is it jadedness about love, or is it that I don’t have the insecurities that I used to have that caused me to be needy for love and affection? Maybe having a child satiates the caring and nurturing part of me and there’s not much room for someone else – I don’t know. Or maybe, it’s part of much bigger thing happening to society in which the more independent we become and our needs fulfilled, the less needy we become of others, and the less desire we have to be in relationships.
Maybe you don’t have enough details about what’s been going on in my personal life to make a good judgement, or maybe you’ve had similar feelings, or similar lack of feelings. I just know I can’t be the only one feeling like this, and I don’t know why exactly I feel like this.
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